to participate download our app

Apr 14
17:35
So I’ve been in a new relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. In this time, my boyfriend has met some of my friends but I’ve never met any of his. I’ve asked him about this and i even said “why don’t you go hang out with your mates on Saturday instead” (as we always see each other on Saturday) but he always says that his mates are all about going out drinking on Saturday night and getting drunk, and he said he’s not into that sort of thing anymore, so he doesn’t hang out with them. The way I see it, he’s really close to his family and cousins but he doesn’t have any proper friends. Is this a problem? Is it also a problem that he doesn’t like going out drinking? (He’s 25) Any thoughts/comments are appreciated x
2
9
Apr 14
17:39
I don’t see why it would be a problem that he doesn’t like to go out and drink.
5
Apr 14
17:50
Of course not. It would show potential for an actual big problem if he did like going out and drinking so much.
2
Apr 14
18:26
I’ve found a lot of my older friends around that age have grown out of the going out and getting drunk every weekend stage. While I do think he should have some friends to hang with occasionally I know making friends isn’t the easiest thing to do. One ex of mine who was 25 went out every night with his mates to get drunk and smoke. It was awful and I felt like I was dealing with a high schooler who never wanted to be without his friends. I think it’s a good thing he doesn’t want to go out drinking all the time. It sounds like he’s mature and just grew out of it, but hasn’t found friends he connects with so he likes spending weekends with you.
1
Apr 14
19:34
Thanks for the comments 😘
1
Apr 14
19:41
Sounds pretty normal- he’s outgrowing his friends. Sometimes it happens quicker when you’re dating someone bc you obviously have a different “agenda” if you will as opposed to your single friends that are boozin’ and tryna find hookups. They’re just in different places. If these are good friends of his I would at least encourage him to do other things with them other than drinking. It’s important for y’all to hang out with eachothers friends but it’s also important to have your own set of friends so I would encourage that.
1
Apr 14
21:56
I honestly prefer that in a partner - someone who doesn’t need to go out and get drunk every weekend and party and waste all their money. My boyfriend went through the first few years of our relationship not having friends he’d hang out with - then with some encouragement he got some back and just did other things - like go get food or go chill out at someone’s house. I’m glad he has some friends now. And I was the exact same.
1
Apr 15
04:28
My boyfriend used to have a ton of friends and they had a falling out sort of and now he doesn't have any friends who aren't related and he's close to your bfs age. It doesn't bother me and it doesn't make any problems
1
Apr 15
08:08
@freespirit how did you encourage him to get some of his friends back? What sort of stuff did you say? X
 
Apr 15
09:29
That friends are important and he needs to just have some guy time sometimes
 

to write your comment download our app